Get it together Vik!!

I say this phrase, to myself (or variations of - and rather rudely and loudly) several times a day - though, thankfully, not every single day....quite.  I don't understand why I can't get it together more, be better organized, get out of the house on time and arrive 'on time' to our destination, get a good 'complete' day of schooling in for Sage, finish the dishes, fold the laundry, not talk mean to my child because he's getting on my nerves, lose the weight I want to lose, get more things accomplished on a day I'm actually home all day, handle the budget better, smile and laugh more, etc etc (you get the idea and have most likely said those same ones, similar and/or more)......

Here are a few random pointers, for getting you (and ME) through (and no, I am not suggesting they'll work for everyone all the time, or at all) - just that they have worked for me:

- Work on becoming a 'single-tasker', not a multi-tasker.  Actually completing even 1- 3 things a day feels so much better than starting 10 but never completing any of them.  Guess what, it's still there waiting, giving us yet more reason to tell ourselves we weren't good enough, again....

-  If you're lucky (and unlucky too) you will always be your own worst critic.  Most times, the people around you, in your direct living environment, think you're doing an incredible job! 

- Accept that there will always be something else waiting to be done.  It doesn't stop, plain and simple.  So, don't expect that suddenly at some sunshiny moment, everything in your life will be complete and 'done'.

-Remember that on another day, the things driving you nuts right now won't necessarily drive you nuts.  Frame of mind....

-  When you're right in the middle of a rant to yourself, about yourself - STOP and counteract the negativity with overkill of kindness.  Seriously,  toot your own horn ("I'm the best cook EVER", "No-one fixes a boo boo better than me", "I've got great hair", "Nobody looks as good in this shirt as I do", etc).  Go for overkill here until you're laughing at yourself and glad that no-one is around to hear.  Better yet, say it nice and loud dancing around whomever happens to be in the room.

-  When it just seems like one of those days that things are not flowing and not a whole lot is feeling warm and fuzzy to you - give up.  Yep, you read right - give it all up for the day.  The world will keep revolving, don't worry.  Accept it's just not working, and do something for yourself or play with your offspring.  After all, we did have children to remind ourselves how to play more, amongst other reasons.  One of my favorite things to do is just read to my 5yo son when I feel like my mind is going to explode.

-Finally (and desperately), if nothing else works, watch a Soap Opera (which, I haven't in about 20ish years but I remember what they were like!).  Your life will always look better in comparison.  If they're happy, you know they won't be for long.

By the way, I do believe I'm a truly great mother, wife and person, in case you were wondering.... :)